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Ìfẹ́olúwa's avatar

I've never seen a conversation between two flirts that wasn't thrilling. I live for the witty replies and sharp remarks that keeps me on my toes, gags me or poses a sexy challenge for later.

love how you're a master of the art of showing and not just telling with the way you wielded your pen to ink these details.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

Thank you, Ife 🤍 I also absolutely love a good, flirty conversation. The innuendos, the thickness in the air, the awareness of both parties that they’re in a game; it’s such a thrill.

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Ibukunoluwa's avatar

I really enjoyed reading this. Flirting is a dying art, this is an age where a compliment at work can get you in trouble or unwelcome contact is seen as harassment. Nevertheless, this was such a wonderful read. I should start flirting again.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

I endorse this. Begin! 😂

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Anjali Krishnakumar's avatar

love this share!! The art of real flirting is so underrated, that most of the world thinks they know flirting, but seldom knows!

Being subtle, artistic, sharp witted, and soft, and to know when to play the cards NEVER goes out of style!! <333

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Second Glance's avatar

Did I love this comparison? Absolutely. Will I ever look at butter the same way again? Absolutely not.

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jani's avatar

this! is! beautiful! the indulgent way you’ve written about this is exactly what flirting feels like

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Sharon Chidra Jonah's avatar

Oh God yes. I mean we laugh at post that says things like, “I literally liked your Instagram story. How didn’t you tell I was flirting with you” and it’s funny but a lot of people do this. Liking Instagram stories is actually flirting and I am like hold on? Let us take 50 steps back cause what happened to us and how did we land here? I am not the best at flirting— I am actually super awkward. But I have come to understand that I prefer in person conversations with someone I like cause it allows me to flirt better. In text, I might be a little stiff. Sometimes, I am bold that idk if I can say that in person but a lot of the time in person, I really enjoy that connection, that build up with someone I like. And we are losing that. The art of flirting is dying.

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BrainFudge's avatar

For me it was this : “There is an intoxicating uncertainty in the possibility of rejection”

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

there is, isn't there? i found it fascinating to think about

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Lewis Campfield's avatar

Lovely. A well written piece that seems to me to be accurate.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

Thank you always for reading 😇

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Kwaku's avatar

I enjoyed this! The way you spoke about it actually got me thinking about the place of flirting in establishing or maintaining platonic relationships too. Or maybe that would be something else entirely?

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

I’m open to discussing this further, but I think that would be something else entirely. Flirting can be playful, but it’s like an innuendo (only that it’s positive lol). It’s suggestive. I don’t think it should have a place in platonic relationships, except one party wants a progression to deeper water. 🫠

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Kwaku's avatar

I feel you!

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Jayjayoluwa's avatar

Well done, thank you for sharing

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

thank you for reading 🫶🏼

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KOR BEAUTY's avatar

This was a beautiful writing. The details so vivid in my head. “Like butter” the perfect description 😍😍

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

thank you so much for reading!

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Olamide's avatar

I love how you communicated the wisdom of giving ourselves to the simple trills of life that uplift our souls rather than skipping the process or becoming transactional.

To put it more simply, you encouraged us to get back to the act of flirting, which I believe was lost when we(humans) started seeking more of what we would gain from love than the love itself.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

Yes! One newsletter in my drafts (and I would love to complete one of these days) discusses the hyper-transactional approach we have to love and life in recent days. Thank you for reading and distilling the idea.

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Treasure Okure's avatar

i agree. flirting is becoming a lost art and i think we should engage with it more deliberately! thank you for writing this. ❤️

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

I’m glad you liked it. Love your work too 🥹🫶🏼

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Funmibi's avatar

Oh Shuga🥹 This is so goodddddd❤️ Found my fellow lover girl to the core, finally😅 Welldone🤭

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

😂😂 I’m here for you, girl 🫶🏼

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