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Ìfẹ́olúwa's avatar

"Public gestures are lovely, as long as the person continues to be the point, not the applause."

too real!

I'd further argue that PDA shouldn't be a highly rated metric for judging the affection of a partner.

and that is not to say I do not respect people who'd prefer that.

however, in the world where everything is glamorised and ratings could be skewed by likes, views and reposts, it can be a tad blinding to see when a partner isn't present enough as they should be, as they have previously been.

the little and large acts that show that they are cherished first, as the primary display of love - without the care of an audience.

then the public display (as much as they can tolerate) can come after.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

Yes. This about sums it up.

I couldn’t have written it better, although I might have put “as they have previously been” in brackets. Because sometimes, this phenomenon occurs from the very start of the relationship. Some people have never known their partners without cameras. :)

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Oluwafemi Ifanayajo's avatar

I stayed glued. You do have a point.

It's all for show now. The world is a stage and we are all actors. Now with social media, few tractions, you can be a celebrity.

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Olasubomi Oduntan's avatar

“It’s all for show” was the title of this article before I changed it. I wanted to be careful that I don’t cover everyone with the same blanket.

Love has always been on display; it’s just way too easy these days. And like I mentioned, it’s like a drug. You can get addicted to it and not know when you’re yourself and when you’re just pandering to the response of an audience.

We should all be careful. But I’m not saying we shouldn’t share our love on social media. :)

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